People never cease to amaze me. It's always when we least expect it that someone will do or say something to you that makes you say "ARE YOU SERIOUS?". Why do we (including myself because none of us are perfect) so easily at times take people who have been there for us for granted. Does this mean the saying is true..."you always hurt the one you love"?
How can we fix our mouth to ask someone for something when we've never said "thank you" for what they've already done for us, who they've already been to us. Or better yet, we've never said "I'm sorry" for what we've put them through. That person owes you nothing. They continued to put up with your selfishness for one reason only, love...nothing more, nothing less. For some of us, it may be too late to repair those broken relationships but if it's not, swallow your pride and make things right.
**footnote: When I began writing this I was filled with accusatory anger but somewhere in the middle the law of objectivity crept in. With that being said I hope this helps you as you read it as much as it helped me to write it.
...that's what it is then!
This is not meant to offend anyone but I do not apologize if it does. The choice is always yours to read or not to read. It's only my thoughts/feelings/opinions; We all have them. Love...
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Friendship
As I sit here today in this state of recovery, I have alot ot time to reflect on things that I usually don't think about. Maybe if I'd had time on my hands before I would've decided to rid myself of alot of people long before this. I ask myself how can some people actually call themselves your friend with a straight face? A friend is there for you when you need them without you having to ask them to be. A friend tells you if you've done something to offend them instead of waiting for the perfect opportunity for the great "catch-back". A friend understands that as you get older and form other relationships and build your family (if there is a history between the two of you), then you have to always remember and understand that we will both have to put forth an honest effort to make time for each other...quality time, not bullshit drive-bys whenever you happen to be in the neighborhood. A friend's love is unconditional, unwaivering, it's not envious nor is it competitive (especially after a certain age).
Some may feel that I expect too much from someone I consider a friend. Here's the thing, I dont expect anything from anyone I'm unwilling to do in return. With that being said, before you call yourself a friend ask yourself if any of the above mentioned qualities apply to you. If not, GREAT! If so, take a minute to reflect; look in the mirror and have a deep and honest conversation with yourself. At this point, don't bother calling me, I'll probably be on the other line with my friend.
...that's what it is then!
Some may feel that I expect too much from someone I consider a friend. Here's the thing, I dont expect anything from anyone I'm unwilling to do in return. With that being said, before you call yourself a friend ask yourself if any of the above mentioned qualities apply to you. If not, GREAT! If so, take a minute to reflect; look in the mirror and have a deep and honest conversation with yourself. At this point, don't bother calling me, I'll probably be on the other line with my friend.
...that's what it is then!
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